Sri Sri's Knowledge Sheets on Desire

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"A Desire Kills Joy &
All Desires Aim For Joy"

This couplet needs to be pondered over and over; for a whole lifetime is not sufficient enough to digest this knowledge.

Whenever happiness has disappeared from your life, look deeper and you will see it is because of the desire. And all that we desire is happiness!

No person, animal or creature desiring unhappiness is ever born, never has it happened before and never will it happen in the future.

When your small mind gets tired of running here and there, of wandering everywhere, it reaches a conclusion, "My desires have killed my happiness".

Thus a person who has conquered his desires in called "mahavira".


Desire, awareness of the Self and action all are manifestation of the same energy that is you.

Among these three, one of them dominates at a time. When you have lots of desires, you are not aware of the Self. When desire dominates, Self-awareness will be at its lowest, and that's why all the philosophers around the world have always advocated renunciation and dropping of desires. When the awareness is dominant, then happiness dawns. When desire dominates, stress and sorrow result. When actions dominates, restlessness and disease is the result. When your actions and desires are sincerely directed to the Divine or to the welfare of society, then the consciousness is automatically elevated, and Self - knowledge is sure to be attained.

Dispassion and desire

What is desire? Most of you probably know that it is the play of desire that could take you away from yourselves.

As long as some desires linger in your mind, you cannot be at total rest. Lord Krishna says in the Bhagavad Gita, ‘You cannot get into Yoga (union with the self) unless you drop the desires or hankerings in you’. Every desire or ambition is like a sand particle in the eye!
You cannot shut your eyes nor keep them open with a sand particle inside — it is uncomfortable either way. Dispassion is removing this sand particle so you can open and shut your eyes freely! The other way is to extend your desire, or make it so big that it will not bother you anymore.

Learned men for many years have talked of dispassion and the need for dispensing with desire. So how to deal with desire? Just do not give too much weight to the fulfillment of desires. Don’t fight it off and try to expel it from your system. You have no control over desires. Desires come up. Instead of holding on to them, or daydreaming, just offer yourself to the desires. Just surrender them in their complete form. This process is called sanyas.

When you forsake everything that arises in you, then nothing can take you away from your centre. Life teaches you the art of letting go in every event and the happier you are.

What is surrender? It simply means that when a desire comes to you just offer it up and say to yourself: “If it is good, let it happen to me.” But surrender doesn’t mean the absence of action. Don’t just make an affirmation and say “Okay, I shall have a good job” and let go of it and do nothing about it. You need to do whatever is necessary to be done.

Desire For Truth

Buddha said that desire is the cause of all misery. If your desire does not get fulfilled, it leads to frustration and causes misery. Even if it does get fulfilled, it leaves you empty.

Vashishhtha said that desire is the cause of pleasure. You get pleasure from an object or a person only when you desire them. When you do not desire an object, you do not get pleasure from it. For example, when a person is hot and thirsty, a sip of cold water gives him pleasure; but not if he is not thirsty. Whatever gives you pleasure binds you and bondage is misery.

Sri Sri says when you desire for truth, all other desires drop off. You always desire for something that is not there. But, truth is always there! Desire for truth removes all other desires and it itself dissolves. And what remains is bliss.

Desire & Joy

All desires are for happiness. That is the goal of desire, isn't it? How often does your desire lead you to the goal? But have you thought about the nature of desire? It simply means tomorrow, and not now, isn't it? Joy is never tomorrow. It is always now.

How can you have desires when you are joyful? And how can you really be joyful now when you have desires? Desire appears to lead you to happiness. In fact it cannot. And that is why it is Maya. What do you say?

How Does A Desire Arise?

1. A desire arises with the memory of a pleasant experience and past impressions.

2. A desire might arise through listening.

3. A desire can be triggered through the association of certain people and a place.

4. Someone else's need or desire may manifest in you as your own desire, e.g. when someone is hungry, you get a desire to feed them or someone wants to talk to you and you get a desire to talk to them.

5. The destiny or a happening in which you have a part to play may trigger a desire of which you have no idea. For example, a gentleman in Quebec, Canada kept making roads and working on a farm for 30 years, not knowing for what -- for it was destined to become our Canadian Ashram.